Making Marriage Work Term Paper by Nicky

Making Marriage Work
A discussion on the components of a successful marriage.
# 148695 | 2,840 words | 5 sources | APA | 2011 | US
Published on Oct 30, 2011 in Psychology (Social) , Women Studies (Marriage)

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The paper discusses how maintaining a successful marriage is a substantial challenge, at least in relation to the general statistics of marital success. The paper addresses choosing the right partner, avoiding the so-called repetition compulsion, appreciating what aspects of a relationship are of crucial long-term importance and which are not, having children for the right reasons and maintaining realistic expectations for married life. The paper posits that ultimately, it is the way couples approach, respond to, and resolve their differences that determines the success of their marriage.

Choosing an Appropriate Partner
Avoiding the Repetition Compulsion
Marriage for the Right Reasons
Being Best Friends: What That Does and Does Not Mean
Having Children: Right Reasons and Wrong Reasons
Issues of Attraction in Marriage
Maintaining Realistic Expectations for Married Life

From the Paper:

"To a large degree, successful marriage depends on choosing appropriate candidates for romantic relationships in the first place, rather than someone whose primary draw is in our own unresolved psychological issues. Successful marriage also depends on marrying for the right reasons and not because of family pressure, societal expectations, or by ultimatum. Friendship is also crucial to successful marriage, but that requires an understanding of what being friends means in the context of marriage.
"Parenthood is undoubtedly one of the most rewarding of all human experiences, but it is not necessarily right for many couples. Even when it is right and where the marriage is successful in general, there are negative consequences to the marriage, at least temporarily. On the other hand, having children for the wrong reasons is likely to be fatal to marriages that are not successful in general beforehand."

Sample of Sources Used:

  • Bradshaw, J. (2002) Creating Love: The Next Great Stage of Growth. New York: Bantam.
  • Branden, N. (2004) The Psychology of Romantic Love. New York: Bantam.
  • DeAngelis, B. (2001) Are You the One for Me? Knowing Who's Right & Avoiding Who's Wrong. New York: Delacorte Press.
  • Hendricks, G, Hendricks, K. (1999) Conscious Loving: The Journey to Co-Commitment. New York: Bantam.
  • Hendrix, H. (2004) Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples. New York: Henry Holt & Co.

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