Forgiveness after Infidelity - A Model Research Paper by Nicky

A look at how to overcome an incident of infidelity.
# 151196 | 3,260 words | 15 sources | APA | 2012 | US
Published on May 29, 2012 in Psychology (Social) , Ethics (General)

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This paper examines the challenge of forgiveness following the disclosure of infidelity in a marriage. According to the paper, forgiveness is an important step in moving past an act of cheating or other injury. Thus, this paper explores previous research involved with Enright's forgiveness process model and how it is applied to various population groups who have had to deal with emotional injuries. It then moves on to explore the need to study Enright's model within young married couples who have had to deal with a recent infidelity within the context of their marriage. It outlines specific stages for counselors to determine if the couple has moved passed based on a sliding scale to provide statistical data to analyze. The paper concludes by stating that the stages involved with Enright's forgiveness process model are helpful for facilitating individual strategies to deal with getting through an act of infidelity.


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From the Paper:

"After the initial uncovering of an infidelity, there must be recognition of such an act. Thus, the first stage of Enright's model is that of the uncovering phase, where "individual becomes aware of the emotional pain that has resulted from a deep, unjust injury," (Enright & Reed 2009:1). This time period may vary depending on the nature of the infidelity and the mind of the individual who was injured. Within this spectrum, the injured party is allowed to explore his or her feelings of anger and hatred as a way to fully understand them and eventually move past them in the subsequent stages. In this phase, "the injury is honestly understood," (Enright & Reed 2009:1). All emotions towards the act of infidelity and the party who committed the offense are uncovered and explored. This is an absolutely crucial step in the process of Enright's forgiveness model. Without uncovering such feelings of anger and hurt, there is no true way for the injured party to efficiently move past them. Exploring these emotions may be an incredibly painful for the injured party, but is an absolute necessity in order for that person to not harbor any residual feelings of anger or resentment during the latter stages..."

Sample of Sources Used:

  • Bachman, Guy Foster & Guerro, Laura K. (2006). Forgiveness, apology, and communicative responses to hurtful events. Communication Reports. 19(1):45-63.
  • Cossman, Brenda. (2006). The new politics of adultery. Colombia Journal of Gender and Law. 15(1):274-297.
  • Enright, Robert & Reed, Gayle. (2009). Process model. About Forgiveness. Forgiveness Institute. Retrieved 29 Sep 2009 at
  • Farley, Reynolds & Haaga, John. (2000). The American People: Census 2000. Russell Sage Foundation.
  • Gambaro, M. E. (2002). School-based forgiveness education in the management of trait anger in early adolescents. Unpublished doctoral dissertation, University of Wisconsin-Madison.

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