Attachment Styles and Relationships
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From the Paper:"Attachment style has a very strong affect on the type of relationships a person forms. Attachment theory postulates that the types of relationships we form as adults may be a reflection of the relationship we had with our parents. Conventionally speaking, that may be true for some people. For instance those who grew up neglected and abused may become an abuser or those who lacked attention may find themselves quite dependent and needy. But is this always true? Perhaps some people form relationships that are the exact opposite of the relationship between themselves and their parents, or perhaps they form some relationships that are similar to that with their parents and others that are no reflection of that particular relationship at all.
"Chapter 11 (Baumgardner & Crothers) describes four adult attachment styles: secure attachments, preoccupied attachments, fearful avoidant attachments, and dismissing avoidant attachments. Each style eludes to a person's self-esteem and confidence level in determining how they form relationships with other people. Individuals who form secure attachments are highly confident and have a low level of relationship anxiety and avoidance because they are confident in their relationships and satisfied that their relationships will meet their needs (p. 259). I believe that people who form secure attachments have high self-esteem and they are better able to involve themselves in healthy relationships for all the right reasons and able to work through any problems or walk away from unhealthy relationships when necessary. They are not reliant on their friends or romantic partner to provide their self-worth.
"Preoccupied attachments are formed by those who experience low self-esteem and high levels of relationship anxiety. However unlike some individuals with lower self-esteem and high anxiety, preoccupied attachments are not characterized by relationship avoidance because these individuals like and desire intimacy (p. 260). In my opinion, this attachment style most likely applies to tumultuous relationships because the person wants to be in a relationship or friendship, but their anxiety and low self-esteem make it difficult for them to present themselves with confidence and independence."
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